Hey guys, does anyone have any advice on how to get a spark back in a relationship?

We’re 3 years in and it’s been the last 6 months or so that our sex life and intimacy in general has taken a huge dive. When we’re good we are sooooo good but recently it’s been weighed out more by the bad.

I try and initiate sex but tbh it’s been since his dad passed away over a year ago that it hasn’t been as often, and I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m the only one fighting and when I talk to him he tells me it would kill him to lose me so he’s going to try, and then nothing changes. Or when I try and talk about sex he gets defensive and doesn’t want to talk. There’s no effort from him to try and be romantic or keep things interesting like going out etc, he would rather sit on the sofa and watch tv.

I’m just struggling a lot now, it’s making me feel like the most unattractive person ever and I’m feeling so low. I’ve not been having the best time at work either, so it’s all been piling up. I ’m on meds for my depression anyway and have been since before I met him, but recently the thoughts or ending it all have been creeping I don’t want to go down that route again. I tried to overdose 18 months ago and I don’t want be there again but I can’t help it.

Any advice people could give me would be great.