SO isn’t a good dad

My fiancé is my babies father and wants nothing to do with her. Thinks it’s a woman’s job to change a diaper and a man shouldn’t do it if the baby is a girl because she has girl parts. He also gets grossed out that parents miss their child (even on the head, belly etc.) when I say it breaks my heart that he doesn’t spend time with her then I’m just in the wrong and I’m saying it to upset him. We have been together almost 6 years and nothing I say will get through to him. He doesn’t feel the love a parent should feel towards our daughter and it has really driven a wedge between us. I had an amazing father and he did everything for us and that’s the example I had, I couldn’t imagine having a different outcome. When I say this he says I shouldn’t compare him to other men/fathers. I don’t know what else to do and after 6 years I do love him and I don’t want to just break up but this sucks and I feel myself starting to resent him.