We decided to have a deep conversation about our TTC journey. It’s been 20 months with one miscarriage in the beginning.

All of our friends are pregnant and it’s all they can talk about which is fine and we are happy for them.. but they don’t realize how much it hurts us to always hear about it.

Anyway we talked about seeing a doctor and stuff and then he told me he’s been having a tough time lately because he feels a lot of guilt.. so I asked him why.. he said because when we first got married I was 28 and he was 27 and I wanted to start trying and he wasn’t ready.. then when I turned 30 I said i wanted to try and he said ok but he was still a little hesitant. Now I’m almost 32 and we are struggling. He feels like he took those years for granted and never considered that we would struggle.. and he had no real reason not to be ready he just didn’t want to have kids yet. I tried to tell him that the struggle would probably have happened either way and we never could have predicted it because we are both healthy. He just kept saying he is sorry he took those years away from me because maybe by now we would have our baby but we don’t.

I don’t know how to help him .. I don’t blame him in any way.. I’m not mad at him for not being ready sooner.. we can’t change the past. But he is still sad and idk what to do 😣

Advice anyone?