how to start loving myself

my family is very toxic and I live with them. I'm trying to transfer to another college to get out of here. but my fathers negative/bipolar mind fucks us all up. I get put down on the daily and since I was born. my boyfriend wants me to start loving myself but HOW TF CAN I. i just love him and i know this loving myself shit will fuck us up if i don’t start now

ps i opened myself up about this topic today with my bf, and i would start loving myself for myself. i brought the topic of how i love him but wish i loved myself the same