Anyone else's husbands

Say they won't help you with your child unless you ask. Ever since he got me pregnant he refuses to help out around the house. Now he refuses to help me care for our son unless I ask him for help. He won't feed him unless I ask him to. He won't change diapers unless I ask him to. He won't even hold our son or interact with him unless I ask him to. He really wanted a girl and I asked him if he is happy that we have a boy and he said yes but I'm not sure he is telling me the truth.