I don’t get it. My boyfriend and I argue about this sometimes... he says he watches pornhub quite a bit. I tell him it really upsets me and I view it as a form of cheating.

I ask him how would he feel if I got off to videos of other men jacking off

And he said it wouldn’t bother him as long as I’m not meeting up with people....

So I said what about if this guy (who messaged me hitting on me a few months ago) sent me a video of him getting off, I saved it to my phone, then later I pleasured myself to it?

He said “well that’s totally different because he’s real. And that would be cheating.”

I don’t get it!!!

I view the ACT of lusting after someone besides your SO as cheating. He thinks the PERSON you’re pleasuring yourself to is what makes the situation different. It makes no sense to me.

So where’s the line drawn? Porn models? Girls you went to school with? Premium snap models? I see girls on here talking about how their boyfriends have paid money to models in return to see them get naked for them. Is that a form of cheating or no since you don’t know them?

Because by this logic, it’s only cheating if it’s personal... but I view it all as cheating.

And if you cut the face out and just focus on their bodies, who’s to say if it’s a random porn star he doesn’t know or a girl he used to have a crush on? I mean really, that line is so thin and easy to cross