Is it hard?

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Me and my boyfriend are going on three years now and since the beginning I've known he wanted to join the army.  Now that he has actually got the paperwork and started filling it out,  I'm not sure if I can handle it. We live an hour away and see each other once a month; if we're lucky maybe twice a month. Now we're talking months of not seeing each other. In the beginning,  how did you cope and stay strong?

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There are difficult moments but, it's all relevant.  My husband and I met before he joined so I've gone through everything with him.  Boot camp is a small taste and transition into military life.  For Marines, boot camp is 3 months with only communication via letters.  I know Army is different and I believe they are allowed their phones on weekends, I could be wrong tho.  After graduation, he went straight into is mos training and was gone for an additional 5 months.  We got married after that and a week later was deployed for 14 months. That was tough.  But, FaceTime is a life saver! He's been deployed 6 times now and each time is hard but, becomes routine. Regardless of the time apart we make it work and no matter how hard your situation might feel, there is always someone who has it worse.  Love conquers all <3

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When I met my husband, he was already signed up for the Navy. Then, we got together, 4 months later, he left for boot camp for 2 months. The HARDEST 2 months of my LIFE. The 1st 2 days of him gone, oh boy. I'd cry nonstop. I didn't wanna eat, go to class, nothing. 
I then realized that crying wasn't going to get me anywhere. He was gone, he took an oath & there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. 
I joined Planet fitness, and that's what kept me busy for those 2 months. I worked out 2 hours a day everyday, trying to keep my mind off of him, and it worked! Fast forward 2 months, and I lost 35 pounds by the time we went to his boot camp graduation. I got my hair cut, and re colored. Oh boy, he loved it.
To sum it all up,
Just keep yourself busy girlfriend. Laying around moping isn't going to get you anywhere. The time will fly by after the week he's gone.

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It's difficult but it's doable I was with my husband before he joined (we were dating when he joined) I only talked to him twice on the phone the whole two months he was gone the phone calls were only 30 seconds it sucked then he came home for Christmas spent two weeks home and went back to finish basic my mother in law went to see him graduate in south Carolina then he went to AIT for a few months then on to airborne training and ranger school we got  Married when I went to see him graduate airborne school..it's hard I'm not going to lie but you need to stay busy thank goodness I had friends to help me I went out had fun something my husband wanted me to do... now the first deployment was a different story it was scary

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I feel the 1st deployment is the worst. But you find ways to cope and keep going. Good support is ideal and will definitely help you get through. It's really hard at times, especially when you have little ones (in the long term). But it gives you a bond like no other as well :)

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My husband is in the military he got back from a deployment in August it was tough when he was gone all I did was cry the first week about everything. Our kids missed him like crazy and so did I. You've got to keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. We face timed when we could texted when we could and talked on the phone when got had privacy. I think what made it a little easier for us was that I found out I was pregnant while he was gone after we had been trying for almost a year. It gave us both something to think about and be very excited for

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Its different for everybody I think. I havent gone through a deployment just yet but his months in the field flew by for me....I have a full time job that I enjoy and a 4 yr old son keeping me busy. For me it was a lot less housework with him gone hahaha definitely not as fun but not the end of the world.

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You can do it if you really love him distance won't change that. My boyfriend is in Japan for the next 2 years 🤷🏼‍♀️. We are doing it.

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