My naive mother..

I need to vent.

I know my mother is a grown women but boy does she get on my nerves!

She got married at 16 and got divorced a couple years ago. She has always been a very religious Christian women who pretty much torture me all my life until I moved out and got married, yet we are still close. After my dad left her she developed a crush on a 23 year old she was CONVICTED he was in love with her. Mind you he was/is engaged. We got into an argument one day and she told me that she would give up all of her kids for this man. We didn’t talk for a year after that. After reconnecting she told me she was dating a new man, her age and a lovely Christian. He seemed very nice! Had the same beliefs as her, one being waiting until marriage to do ANYTHING sexual. But she wasn’t in love with him. She used this poor man for a year all because she liked the attention. She lied to him all the time, said she loved him and saw a future with him. FINALLY she broke it off with him.

So this whole time she dated this man she was in love with another very young man who is married. She did everything possible to make his wife jealous. My mom was convicted this man was in love with her as well. I have met him, he’s a sweet kind man who acts that way towards everyone.

Present day: my mom has been seeing a new man. Before I met him she complained about him ALL the time. How he always asked if they would have sex, how he smokes weed and drinks(my mom is against both for religious purposes). I told her ok? Why don’t u just break up with him? She would always agree that she needs to break up with him. This back and forth between her went on every week. Finally I met him in person. Seemed like a nice man, but a month goes by and my mom calls me angry because he had been cheating on her because she “doesn’t put out”. My mom said she will break up with him. Every time I call her she makes an excuse why she hasn’t...

I have never met someone so desperate for attention from a man. If it was me in her place she would DISOWN me. The worst part is she’s so desperate for love she will stay with a man that cheats on her. This has been effecting the whole family... she doesn’t pay attention to my younger siblings.. she doesn’t realize her 15 year old daughter is sexually actively and knew nothing about birth control. I had to call her and have the sex talk with her. That her 12 year old daughter is bullied at school and wants so badly to get away from everyone she calls me and asks if she can move across the country and live with me. She has racked up so many “sick” days at school that she is going to fail 5th grade. Her 14 year old daughter is so worried about her weight she counts her calories and starves herself.

But my mom doesn’t see any of this.

My heart hurts for my family and I can’t do anything to help.