Two different worlds🌎 (VENT)

My fiancé and I have only been together for almost two years, total. We have a 10 month old and are you young parents. (He’s 23, I’m 20) His behavior makes me want to smack him sometimes!

Please read the whole thing to get my question. For an example, Halloween. Our daughters first Halloween, she’s sleeping (Finally) and Ive been home with her all day. All I wanted was a couple of hours to get dressed up and go see my parents, his parents and go to our community festival. But instead, he brought home his friend, who I swear will sleep at hour house all weekend. When that’s the only time I can see my fiancé. They will play games, stay up all night leave a mess. We’ve had that conversation multiple times. But this was different.

He trailed along with us to my parents house and his parents house. When I finally said something he stated “didnt understand what the big deal is” or “why I’m making a big f***ing deal of it”. But I turned to him and said “You don’t see that your daughters first Halloween is a big deal? You would rather have your friend over to talk about fantasy basketball than watch your daughter have fun...”

That continued until the end of the night when we sat down and talked properly. See, my fiancé’s parents never took him trick or treating, or take pictures of their costumes or hell even celebrate birthdays, because they couldn’t afford it. He stated it’s second nature or him to do those things as it is for me to give it a second thought. So my question is, has anyone gone through something like this? Or have any advice? We figured it out but it was hard on both of us.