my bf has been asking for sexy pics a lot lately, i've sent a couple (never nude just a sexy/flirty pic ig?) but they've all been of my own will and just cuz i wanted to tease a little. but he's been like asking for more and more a LOT. and i've lost quite a bit of weight, which means my butt is flatter than usual and i've been self conscious recently. but he's been pushing me to "get thicker". bc he thinks it's hot and i know how much he loves my ass...but like...he keeps pushing me to work on it. not in like a positive supportive way either, if that makes sense. like it's not like i'm working on it and he's just helping motivate me. he just says it out of nowhere, that he wants me thicker. anyways i texted him about something he said. he told me he "needs" sexy pics when he dropped me off at home. and i told him he doesn't need anything like that so he said it's like me saying i don't need the shirtless out of shower pics he sent me. and then i texted him.

he does that self deprecating thing every time we have an argument or i call him out on something i don't like. it's always "i'm terrible" i'm this i'm that. idk if that's manipulative in any way? like it seems like he's trying to get ME to make HIM feel better about himself even tho it's him that's causing stuff

EDIT:

a lot of people have told me it is indeed manipulative. so what do i do??? i don't want to leave him bc i don't think he realizes what he's doing. should i just bring it up or?? i've been with him for a while now, our one year is next week, and i really really like him, it's a lot different than other relationships i've been in, so i don't want to throw it away. i'm not quite sure what to do

EDIT #2:

i'm thinking of leaving him. things only seem to be getting worse. like more centered around him. it feels like i'm carrying this relationship, his problems, plus my own all by myself. i recently lost my papa, and it hit me extremely hard as he's the first grandparent i've lost (i only have one great grandparent left) but he's the closest death to me? if that makes sense and by recent i mean october, so it's barely been a month. he helped for the first day or so, after that he's just been coming after me for my body. (he came over the day i found out and was asking me to do all these sexual things...while i was grieving) he also came over when i was extremely sick with the flu, and in a bunch of physical pain, and did the same thing, asked for sexual favors and did things we usually do but at the time REALLY physically hurt me, even when i said so he'd stop at first and then end up doing it again. i'm so conflicted on where this is all coming from, he's NEVER been like this before. our one year is in 4 days, and i'm in this funk.