My “best friend” blocked me

Sorry, this is long....

So my best friend and I had been best friends for 17 years, YES.. SEVENTEEN YEARS. My husband had been going through chemo since June (hopefully done, we’ll find out the results close to end of Nov!) anyway, during that time, I still worked full time, took care of the 3 kids, my husband and our house when he’d been sick for a week at a time and then the week after, I’d spend it with him since he was feeling good, then chemo again the next week, so on and so forth for 4 1/2 months. So, I was pretty busy. Anyway, my best friend randomly messaged me a few months ago, said she felt like I put her on the back burner....🙄 I explained that I was pretty busy with everything going on and that I was sorry and hopefully life would slow down soon. She said, “I feel like we’re drifting apart, and the thing is, I don’t even feel sad about.” Like....

Anyway, she asked if she could take me to dinner the day after my birthday, and I said sure! Well, that day I had a work symposium that I had to sit through for 5 hours, so by the end of that, my head was killing me and I asked if we could reschedule, which she didn’t seem to mind. But over that weekend, she found out we went axe throwing and got mad she wasn’t invited. My husband planned this as a surprise, there’s 6 to a lane, and my sister and her boyfriend came in town for it, and my husband invited his brother and his wife, so there’s our 6. He didn’t invite her because he was upset with her getting mad at me for “putting her on the back burner”, and not caring about our friendship. Not to mention, it was $130 per lane, we were not about to buy two just so she could go. So she goes and vents to my sister that I’m selfish, and she’s hurt, etc and blocks me on Facebook, and wrote a status referring to me, and I’m pretty sure she blocked my number. Let me say this, I wasn’t invited to her birthday party that her sister threw for her and I took her to dinner, so I felt like it was pretty much the same, the only difference is, I wasn’t hurt that I wasn’t invited. But I am hurt that this is a girl that I was there for at all times! When her and her boyfriend broke up, I dropped birthday shopping for my twins, went and helped her pack up, and grab her furniture and spent the rest of the night unpacking into another friend’s house. I took her to her surgery and stayed with her after. I made sure I was back from my sister’s on time to help her move into her new place. When we moved, she literally brought one box to my house and left. But you name it, I was there for her!! And looking back, she couldn’t be excited for me when we started looking at houses. I told her and all she said was, “I can’t even hear about it right now.” Because months prior, her and her boyfriend of a year and a half were looking at buying a house together, but then they broke up, as mentioned above. But here my husband and I were, going on 4 1/2 years of marriage, and three kids and just got around to buying a house (finally got it in May!!). And when I got a new job, she asked how much it paid and I said, “50k base with commissions”, and all she could say is, “without a degree?? That’s more than I make.” Because she always thought a degree would get her more than she’s at, and it’s like she was trying to make me feel bad?...idk.

I guess we just outgrew each other. But it also kinda sucks because she missed my daughter’s 8th birthday for the first time, and she will miss my boys’ 4th birthday and our annual Christmas wrapping. I know I deserve better though...just sucks!

I just feel like she’s being childish and not facing issues like an adult. I am 28 and feel like I’m back in high school.

Thanks for letting me vent!