Birthing Plan/ Half Assed OB

When did your doctor discuss the whole birthing plan with you? With my first born my OB was VERY understanding and on top of things, sadly she retired literally a week before I found out I was pregnant with my second. She had my whole birthing plan written down and planned out with me before I even entered the third trimester, everything I wanted done, who was gonna be there, all of it. It was extremely reassuring and made the thought of labor less scary.

With this new OB she’s very half assed with everything, or she throws her own opinions into stuff. Sadly I can’t change doctors because of my insurance so I’m stuck with her this time, she’s not so horrible that I want to switch anyway, so I’m fine with her. But so far she hasn’t asked about my birthing plan or even seemed interested, I’ve had to repeat the same things at appointments because she forgot, I don’t want an epidural this time because mine failed last time, she assumes I want it every appointment and I have to remind her i don’t, which I can understand her not remembering, I’m not her only patient, but this is the same office as my old OB and as far as I knew they had a sheet with all kinds of things written down for each patient. She also keeps making me do glucose tests and giving me the same speech about high sugars and blood pressure. But I have perfect blood pressure and sugar every appointment, I’ve always had it perfect, I’ve honestly never had anything high or abnormal. I understand it’s a big concern while pregnant but if there’s no concern for me why keep it up, I’ve had to do the glucose test 3 times, and one of them was a three hour even though I passed the one hour. I just wish she was more on top of everything and understanding and kind.

Also I was supposed to get my TDAP shot at my last appointment but she had to rush to lunch and pushed it off, so I’ll be 34 weeks when I’m able to get the shot, will it still work then?