I need help.

I’m officially a depressed momma. However it has nothing to do with my little boy. It has everything to do with my husband. He and I have been through a five year roller coaster.(the windy ones with the spiral flips) however I love him more than anything. He’s always been good to me until about 6 months ago. He stopped the intimacy and the random “I love you’s.” Our conversations are short and movie nights are dull. A night out ends in an argument because he falls asleep at the table or is begging to go home. He blames our life changes and our sons birth on his social isolation. Sex is planned and life is just a routine now. We don’t even say goodnight anymore. But still, I love him. Today I missed him so I told him to come home for a while while our DS was at the sitters. I just wanted some time with him because I missed him. We spent about 30 minutes together then be brought up couples counseling. I know I shouldn’t be, but I’m hurt. I didn’t realize that it had gotten to that point. He saw I got upset and tried to take back what he said. Then he said how life has been bad the past 5 years and he’s no longer the cheerful person he was. I am. I love him. I still do things to try to make him feel wanted and loved and appreciated. I know I can be a pain sometimes but I didn’t know it was this bad. I’m in TEARS. He hears me crying but is just watching tv. He’s so uninterested in everything. I could go on and on about our life but we this will turn into like 3 posts. I have no one to talk to about this. I’m sorry for venting. I need help, advice anything. I don’t know how to handle this and NOBODY to lean on