Would it be wrong if I secretly found out the gender??

Question

When I got pregnant, I didnt want to find out the gender but my husband did. I told him he could ONLY find out if he didnt tell a soul, because I didnt want somebody to slip up and tell me. However, now the roles have reversed and he doesn't want to know! 
But would it be wrong if I secretly scheduled a private US for my day off and just got it done?! I am GREAT at keeping secrets, so I know I wouldn't tell anybody. This is my 4th pregnancy after 3 failed pregnancies in the last couple years. I can't explain it, but I kind of want something extra special that bonds me to this pregnancy that nobody else has control or knowledge of. 
I just asked how he would feel if I wanted to know the gender, and all he said was "idk, I'm really excited for the surprise."

Answer

Lol as a women who didnt find out the gender for my first baby and now my second, I cant even tell you how much I struggle with just calling the docs office to find out almost every day. I know I could keep it a secret too!
 Now for my first I just absolutely knew it was going to be a boy. I felt it in my heart. Infact, I was the only one surprised. We had the doctors write it on a note and I gave it to my mother so that at the baby shower ppl could get me gender specific items. It actually worked out so well I got double the gifts. It seems each person wanted to get me something to open, but they also wanted something gender specific so they wrapped it and each labeled the gifts dont open until delivery. No one else in the world knows that I peaked 3 weeks before my due date, I confirmed it was a boy! But, the rest of the world already knew.... I was the only one in the dark at that moment. I felt guilty for really ruining the surprise for myself after all, that was the point, dispite knowing in my bones it was a boy. 
Now for this one, we are keeping it entirely a secret. Apparently 10 years later my friends and family dont trust themselves the way they did with my first. Plus, this baby is with my second husband so different half of the family. So entirely a surprise. I had blood work done and my doctor knew the sex of the baby weeks ago. Everyday is a struggle. 
The only advice I can offer is, you really only get a few good surprises in life, you can completely know so you can fully prepare physically and mentally...or you can follow though with the promise of not knowing and get one of the most truly amazing surprises of your life. The choice is yours. There is no wrong answer.

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I think it’s wrong to go behind your husbands back to find out. If you decided you want to know, he should be in on the decision as it’s also his child. 
I think women forget because they’re carrying the child that it’s equally their partners. The fact that you’re able to carry and birth your baby IS a bond that no one else (including your husband) has.

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I don’t think it’s wrong to find out, but dishonest not to tell him you’re finding out.

Would it be wrong if I secretly found out the gender??

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