Husband's Emotional Affair

I learned today my husband had or is still having an emotional affair with an 18 year old female. It's also worth noting I'm 33 weeks 4 days pregnant with our second child, our son. Although I had my suspicion, it wasn't confirmed until I came across my husband's old phone, while I was searching for my flashdrive. He cracked the screen of his old phone at the beginning of October. I was able to guess his lock pattern. I read both his text and Facebook messages he exchanged between this girl. I initially began bawling, then screamed, and finally called his lying ass demanding a divorce. He has made me feel like I was the crazy one, when he knew exactly what he was doing. He was already on his way home to drop off his FMLA paperwork when I found all this out (He is a firefighter), then back to work. Needless to say he stayed longer than just to drop off paperwork. I yelled at him, punched his chest and busted a knuckle on his stupid radio (I'm not usually a violent person) and demanded why. He claims he started having doubts about our relationship when I quit my job with 911. He was angry and resentful since he was the only one paying bills and still is the only one paying bills. However, I've been with him when he has been fired or quit a job, which has been many. I also supported him through his firefighter and first responder certification. He claims his emotional affair ended when he got his new phone. I doubt it has, because he refuses to stop being friends with her. He claims it never been physical, but when you talk sexually to someone, it has became physical or you want it to be. I'm mad as hell. Hurt and betrayed. He wants to talk more tomorrow since he is off and I have an OBGYN appointment tomorrow. Plus we have to get our pre-op paperwork done and his FMLA paperwork done. I doubt I will get much sleep tonight with all this on my mind. I will keep anyone interested updated.

UPDATE: We spent the whole day Thursday together. We went to my OBGYN appointment, started our Christmas shopping, and grabbed a late lunch. He did most of the talking. He admitted it was a huge mistake. He is adamant nothing physical happened between them. He says he only wants me and our family, and he is still in love with me. I'm still hurt, because he is the only man I have ever loved. His phone is available anytime I want to see it, but with Snapchat he can still hide stuff. I told him I don't want him to have any type of contact with the 18 year old girl. He says he will do anything to save and repair our marriage. He wants me to work on forgiving him, I'm trying to but I need more questions answered. The only people who know what is going on is my younger sister and mother-in-law. I broke down while cleaning the living room thinking about what my husband did. My baby shower is tomorrow and I should be excited, but I'm not. I'm sad and my mind will not stop racing. I can't wallow in my feelings because our daughter depends on me and stress is not good for our unborn son. My husband got called into work this evening and has to work his 24 hr shift tomorrow on top of that. I will not see him again until Sunday morning. So I will hopefully talk to him more about our current situation more with out crying.