So I'm 31 and my partner is 32, we've been together since we were 16/17. On Monday he dropped the bomb that he's caught feelings for someone else, she's 21 years old and they've worked together 6 months.

Just last week, we were trying for a baby (instigated by him I might add), turns out he's been messaging this girl saying how unhappy he is whilst having sex with me & keeping me completely in the dark.

The last 3 years has been a real struggle, but we got through it. He's gone from wanting a future with me, to not wanting me & cracking on with this girl in 1 week.

I'm really struggling to cope with this, I haven't slept, I haven't eaten, I have no idea if we succeeded in getting pregnant, I've honestly never felt pain like I feel right now. He's been putting plans in place with this girl and meeting up next week, my stuff isn't even out of our flat.

I gave this 'man' everything, my whole world revolved around him and it's like I meant nothing to him. My heart is literally shattered, I can't do anything. I try to sleep and my heart starts pounding like I can't breathe, I'm in so much pain. The worst of all, is knowing that he's not feeling any of this and he was in a relationship for the same amount of time (though nowhere near as committed going by recent events).

I dont know how to cope, the only way i can see a way out of this pain would mean transferring this pain on to my family by not being around. It breaks my heart, but its been 4 days since the news & I can't go on like this for the foreseeable future, it hurts too much.

I have committed so much to him, that the friends I have are his friends too. Ive never felt so alone, I need some help I deserve to be free of this pain.

I'm based in the uk & I'm trying everything to get my mind off things and now have to try and rebuild my life but it just doesn't seem possible.

Any help to cure this agony? Im so desperate...

I feel so weak, so pathetic. I can't stand this pain, I can't cope with this pain. How could he do this to me after 15 years? My whole life has revolved around him and I know that's not healthy, but I've had no self esteem or confidence ever. I cant even look at myself in the mirror, he's taken everything away from me and I don't see a way out.