So I’ve started dating this new guy and we haven’t had sex yet.

I really want to take that next step in our relationship but the reason we haven’t yet is because I’m a bit hesitant - (long story short) my last boyfriend of 2 years broke up to me saying that I wasn’t anything more than sex to him (we had a really really perfect relationship up until that point and he literally woke up one day and had changed his mind).

I’m over my ex but if I think about that situation I still get quite upset (lots of feelings of being used etc.) and I’m scared of that happening to me again.

I wanted to talk to my new boyfriend about my past because I feel like it’s holding me back but today out of context my boyfriend said “if someone cries when talking about their ex it’s a clear indication that they aren’t over them”.

Now I feel like I won’t be able to talk to him about it because I’ll get upset and I don’t want him to think I’m not over my ex.

Could someone help put this in perspective for me? Maybe to help me get over the situation so I can tell the story without crying 😅 will appreciate any advice.