What should I do if someone’s talking about me behind my back?

Ughh so a couple of days ago I found out someone that’s supposed to be my friend is actually talking shit about me to my other friends. Obviously one of my real friends told me what she has been doing, and sadly I’m not too surprised. Like I’ve never had something like this happen, but it’s just her attitude towards me lately that’s been kind of a giveaway. I asked two of my friends if it was me, if it was something that I did wrong and they said it was just her.

We’ve been friends for four years now and we’ve definitely drifted apart. Recently she’s been making snarky remarks and I’ve just ignored them because she’s just like that? Just not towards me? Now that I think about it, she’s not the best person to be around, like at all. She’s judgy, inconsiderate, fussy, untrustworthy, and kinda shitty. When I think of her I can’t think of any positive traits she might have. I’ve always had neutral feelings towards her. She’s someone I hang out with, but I never considered her a close friend. I don’t get it though, I’m nice, I’m nice to everyone I come across with.

She picks favorites in our friend group and I know that she’s always kind of resented me for some reason. I never saw her negative words as a problem, because I’ve been degraded before and know that a majority of things that come out of her mouth are wrong. I know better then to believe someone who has no idea what they’re talking about.

Our group is relatively small. She would rather hang out with other people than some of us, her friends of four years. It’s like she has no interest of hanging out with our group anymore and she’s stuck with us. That’s not the case at all, she’s free to leave whenever she wants. But I think she’s staying because she knows we’re there for her, she knows that we’ve always been there for her and I don’t think she wants to throw away four years of good times and friendships, but most of all I think it’s because she doesn’t have anyone else that she can actually lean on.

She tries to be like other girls and has a completely different attitude that’s kind and respectful with them compared to me who apparently deserves to be treated like trash.

Everyone in our friend group knows better than to trust her, she is the least trustworthy person I know. She judges the secrets you tell her and will tell people without your consent. We know that there’s always a likely chance of her telling someone else, someone she’s not even close with. She’ll cling to her favorite people and agree with everything they say, then act like you’re the one that’s below her and wrong in everything you do.

So why? Why is everyone fine with this? Why are we still friends with this person? Because we knew her before she was like this, and since the people that she actually favors don’t know the feeling that she distributes among others, they see nothing wrong with being friends with this person.

Some of my friends see it, they know how she is and how she can be, but because she treats them with such fondness it’s often ignored.

She’s just not a great person, I think a small part of me has always known that, but I’m just starting to realize how her negative influence and energy can impact my high school life. I don’t like this. I don’t like this one bit and I especially don’t like how she thinks this is okay to do.

I don’t think I wanna be friends with her anymore. We were never that close to begin with and it doesn’t seem like our friendship can grow from this.

It’s clear that I’m upset, I know I wrote a lot and I’m surprised. It’s hard to believe that this is all true, but it is. If this is how I really feel then I see no reason to stay friends with this person. I knew we wouldn’t last til senior year, and I have a feeling she’s going to break off with the group before then.

I don’t know what to do about this. Do I do anything? How do I react? How SHOULD I react? Do I confront her? I don’t want to throw my other friends under the bus by doing so. Plus, if I confront her there’s no doubt in my mind that she’ll deny everything, and I really don’t want to argue, I’m done with her.

Do I just ignore her? Do I act like everything’s normal? Do I continue to be nice to her? Do I try to be extra friendly? Do I plot against her? Should I really confront her? Keep in mind that I see her everyday and she’s not really avoidable.

I really hope someone reads through this and gives me feedback😣