My husband and I are expecting our first baby in April 2020. It’s a little girl and both sides of our family are beyond excited. It will be my parents 3rd grandchild and my in laws first grandchild. But we have a major dilemma. My husband and I have had our fair share of drama with both sides of the family as everyone does. Nothing crazy just petty arguments. Well except my in laws. We have different lifestyles and views in the world and there’s a history there. Let’s just leave it at that. Well my husband and I would like my mom and dad to be the first to hold our daughter after us. But we’re torn on how to go about this. My MIL is someone who holds grudges. If she doesn’t helms our baby first we will never ever ever hear the end of it. We still hear about wedding drama from over three years ago. I really want it to be my parents as one it’s my mom, secondly they also have done more for us and helped us then anyone else in this earth. Even though it’s their third grand baby they’re treating her as special as everyone else. My mom is solely throwing my baby shower, she also has bought our crib and dresser for the nursery. How do we go about this situation? I’m afraid if we blatantly let my parents in the room first she’ll throw a fit in the waiting room or make a scene. 😔 I’m keeping my fingers crossed she won’t come to the hospital until we invite her but my husband is feeling that’s not quite fair and he wants to avoid lying to her at all cost.