Okay so, my boyfriend and I have only been sexually active together for a week now, but he so desperately wants me to cum on his 🍆 but I’m having a hard time with it.

I don’t know if I’m distracted or if I’m too tense and nervous? I know what makes me tic but I’m not sure how to get off with him inside me.

I feel like I’m too much work. It’s started to make me feel hella insecure.

There’s times when I become numb and can’t get my clit because it’s literally numb and I can’t feel it. I beat myself up for it even though I know he’s not upset upset, I feel like I’m disappointing him (he’s super supportive and sweet he would never be upset with me about that)

But, does anyone have any tips at all that we can try?

I’ve proposed the idea of possibly getting some toys to help out in that situation (vibrator) but is there something I’m missing?

(Also I am a sexual assault victim, so does that maybe have an impact on my sex life? Like could that be a reason I go numb or something? Idk I’m just so confused)