I started seeing this guy three and a half months ago. He texts me good morning and good night every day without prompting, he even texted me daily while he was in another country.

I recently asked him if we could clarify our relationship because it’s started to feel a little serious. He said we were dating but when I asked for more clarity with regards to where he saw us going his response was kind of weird?

As in he said he had high walls and was a very guarded person and didn’t think it was fair to start seeing someone seriously and make them do all that work to get through his walls. He said he liked spending time with me and wanted to keep seeing me ‘casual serious’ but he understood if that didn’t work for me.

We met in a dating website and his profile said he was looking for a serious relationship. My gut instinct is that he’s interested in a serious relationship but that it isn’t with me and that he’s just enjoying the perks of ‘dating’ while he looks at other people.

It wasn’t a super comfortable conversation (are they ever?) so I didn’t have the chance to ask if that meant he was actively dating other people while he and I were seeing each other (I do plan on asking this)— but should I cut my losses before I get more invested in this guy? Or wait it out a little more to see where it goes?