So I've been seeing someone new. We've been friends since July things got a little sticky in August (we hooked up, decided it was best not to do that anymore but remained friends) fast forward to September we hooked up again he invited me to stay the night but I decided it was best for me to go home. I feel like this was part of the problem in the past (I'd stayed the night with him each time we hooked up making it feel more than that). The next day he called me and said that he wanted to give us a try and asked me to go out on a real date with him. We've done it all formal dances, apple orchards, hockey games LGRW, recently we've discussed spending the holidays together. He also extended an invitation to spend the weekend before christmas with his family in Northern MI. He treats me so well. I think the "L" word is getting ready to slip past my lips... then he mentions that hes not sure what "this is". Totally blind sighted I try not to cry in front of him. He's "just not sure what his motives are" for being in this relationship.

My past relationship was such a nightmare... I was constantly being told I love you but being lied to cheated on and the like. This guy treats me so differently. His actions don't say that he's hesitant or apprehensive... but there's something to be said about what he does tell me... right?

Is it common for guys to feel this way /or express this or is he just a smooth operator and I'm too blind to read the warning signs.

I should add that he's since tried to rectify this and admit that it's not fair/ healthy for him to project all of his fears to me... we have awesome communication, trust, sex and just enjoy being around each other in general but there's still a fear about his wishy washy style.