Feeling overwhelmed, need to vent.

My mother is driving me crazy. She’s old school and I get that things were different then but she judges me on everything I do with my daughter. I know I’m a little extra cautious with my daughter but she’s MY daughter and it’s my husband and I’s decision on things but she just does not get that and has to fight me on each thing or make side comments.

We live in a house and she lives in the side apartment so she always has access to my home and will come everyday to hang out with the baby or help with certain things.

She argues with me about not putting the baby down to sleep on her belly as she’ll “sleep better” that way and that she let my brother and I sleep on our belly from the minute we came home from the hospital and we’re fine.

She picks up the baby sort of by her shoulder with one hand and I keep telling her not to. It doesn’t hurt her but it makes me anxious. She just says that it’s how she picked us up.

She judges me on still breastfeeding though when I was pregnant and in the beginning I said I was only going to ebf until 3 months and baby is 5 months now. She says that she can’t take the baby out because I’m breastfeeding, I never had an issue with bottles at all.

She argues with me about how long to keep the baby in the Jumperoo. She says that if she’s having fun, just keep her in there for an hour + or just put her in front of the tv.

Now and most recent is she REALLY wants me to start my baby on solids. I’m pretty set on waiting until 6 months or close to 6 months but everyday she keeps telling me that the baby is ready and she was giving us baby oatmeal by 3 months and solids and telling me she just can’t wait and wants to see my daughter eat solids “she’ll be much happier” “she wants to try food” or when I made pumpkin pie she kept nagging me to give her some of the filling.

She’ll tell me that her co workers do xyz and their baby is the same age or younger. Or anytime I say that I need a break she’ll tell me “you’re a mom now and a stay at home mom, you don’t get that” or make it sound like I said that I dislike or regret having my daughter and it’s not that AT ALL.

I know she loves my daughter so much. I just wish she would respect me as a mother, my decisions and my boundaries.

I don’t judge anyone on their parenting or if they do any of those things I just don’t want to do it with mine.