Feel like i’m losing it! Am i wrong?

Question

LADIES!!!!!! I seriously don’t know what to do anymore. And i want your votes/opinions please. I suffer from SEVERE anxiety & panic attacks, i’m on Klonopin & i just got put on Cymbalta. When i was a teenager i was wild, and i made some stupid drug choices that i regret every day of my life because i am this way because of those choices. But i cannot be around weed, smell it, or see it. It’s a automatic panic attack. Even just thinking about it too much can send me into one. My husband smokes DAILY, maybe 2-3 times a day big ass backwoods. I have told him if he quit maybe i wouldn’t be so bad like i am right now because hello, i wouldn’t be around it and have to think about it. He refuses though. It has gotten to the point where i have to now go see a psychiatrist and get even more help. I know if it was the other way around, i’d quit in a heart beat, anything to help him be better! I just feel so alone & so hopeless.

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Is this new or did you marry a guy who smokes every day? Because my answer depends on that. If he just started, knowing how you feel, he should stop or you should take it as completely disrespect from his side.
If you married a guy who has always been smoking weed, it seems like a lot to ask for him to just stop. If he cared a lot and understood your situation, he might stop anyway. But if he doesn't understand your situation completely and you've never voiced this before after you got married, I get why he doesn't take it seriously.

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i would say maybe come up with some type of compromise. i don’t like being around weed either, but my bf actually recently tried it and is open to smoking more but also knows i don’t like it. so what we did was, come to the compromise that he only smokes once a month (which he also said won’t even be that often bc he doesn’t go out of his way for it). maybe try telling him not to do it in the house or around you and to make sure he doesn’t smell like it? or maybe for him not to tell you if/when he smokes if you think you’d be better off not knowing. good luck!

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I have an anxiety disorder with panic attacks and I’m not tryin to be rude or come off as some sort of way but therapy will help you manage life. I can’t expect the world to change and accommodate my anxiety. I have to find a way to manage my disorder in the world. Exposure therapy is actually really helpful. I  have panic attacks around water and on boats and my husband loves water lakes rivers pools and boats. When we were younger it didn’t bother me so much but eventually it became a trigger, that didn’t stop my husband from having me join him in boating fun at the lakes or taking the kids to the pool. I had to learn how to live and function.

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Why does he smoke it? Does it help with with anxiety or anything? Did he smoke before you guys got married?

Feel like i’m losing it! Am i wrong?

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