my boyfriend got drunk

today i lost my baby twins at 11 weeks and had surgery. my boyfriend is in the military and lives in another state. well instead of calling me to see how i was and how i’m feeling he went out with all his friends and got super wasted and is getting a tattoo right now. this just pushed me over the edge and my family as well. to the point where i might want to break up with him. how can i tell him so that he understand how this made me feel. i cant even put it into words