How does anybody actually do this?

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Chelsea

I know I'm probably going to sound like a child but this just isn't fair. My husband just doesn't get it. He keeps telling me there's nothing we could've done and not to dwell on it. How do I not dwell on it? My baby died! I'm still nauseous, my boobs still get sore. I'm trying to fool myself into thinking I'm on my period but it's not working. I buried someone yesterday who may have been tiny but they had a heartbeat and they were mine. My husband just told me it's going to be ok. I told him to stop trying to make me feel better and just be sad with me. I'm getting angry and I'm sad and I just want to yell that my baby existed. They mattered and they still matter to me.

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Men grief differently then we do. It’s harder for us because we were growing our baby and experienced the symptoms involved in it. My husband has been the same as your with the 4 of my pregnancy losses. The current one he’s being a lot more supportive. I just told him how I felt, to not negate my feelings that I understand we grieve differently just let me grieve how I do and just hug me and let me cry when I need to. I told him I understand you do see this as a baby loss but you telling me this only makes me feel worse and he’s understand and has gotten better with allowing me to grieve how I need. Just have to be open with communication. It’s not that we are dwelling on it. Loosing a baby isn’t easy and we don’t just “get over it and move on” it takes time. Just be patient with yourself and explain to your husband to be patient with you also it’s what you need. I’m praying for you and your hubby I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️🙏🏻