So I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years, but he hasn’t gotten me to orgasm once. He really tries, and everything he does feels good. I taught him what I like and what I don’t like.

Basically, it just feels like it’s too intense. I can orgasm by myself with my fingers or my vibrator, but when I tried using my vibrator in front of him, it was the same thing.

I feel broken. Like I said, I get really really close, then then it just gets super intense to the point that I can’t orgasm, then after about 10 minutes, I just give up because it doesn’t feel good when it’s that intense for that long, and I don’t want him to keep trying if I really don’t feel like anything will change.

We’re in a very healthy relationship, he makes me feel so comfortable around him, and I feel like I can really be myself with him, there also isn’t much that we don’t talk about. He pretty much knows everything. Whenever I bring this topic up though, he gets really sad because he thinks it’s his fault. I reassure him all the time that it isn’t, but he is just self conscious about it.

We have tried almost everything, but nothing can get me to orgasm.

Another issue is that when we have sex, it hurts. It doesn’t hurt inside of me, but the tissue right under the vagina opening almost feels like it gets a little tear. We have tried every position imaginable, but it always still ends the same way. It really puts a damper on things when it all feels really good, but then it starts to hurt.

Please help because I really do not know what else to to.