Should I rethink the relationship?

Olga

Me and my bf got into a stupid argument and he called me names, I told him “don’t think if I’m a girl you can disrespect me, if you said that to a guy he would punch you in the face”, he thought I plan to punch him next time or whatever he was thinking but then later on he says “ btw if you ever put your hands on me your gonna get it back and I’m not gonna look at the fact that your a girl”, does this sound like the beginning of an abusive relationship or some guys would actually punch a girl if they have to? I know there’s abusive women and it doesn’t mean hitting the guy doesn’t hurt him, that’s why I’m thinking, is it normal for a guy to respond this way or are we too used to “ it’s ok if a woman hits but not if a man does it”?