Hello ladies,

First off..i hardly post anything personal on here but i really jeed to vent and would like some advice. My husband is in the Navy & we have been together for 6 years and married for 5. Fast forward, my husband just transitioned to shore duty and had to go to C school in San Diego for a month..he just got back on our daughter's bday which was last Saturday. From the moment he got home i could tell that his energy was off, but he told me he was just a little stressed because he wasn't sure if he advanced and made E-6 or not...out of 500 sailors only 23 passed ans he was one of them...anyway, monday night a notification popped up on his phone showing that a blocked number tried to call him..i didnt think deep about it because it looked like a telemarketer and i get them alot. I tried to call it back and no one answered...i left it alone but his energy was still off..we had sex but he was kinda giving me the cold shoulder and never does that...fast foward to Thanksgiving..me and him and the baby were dancing in the livingroom and i went to change the song..the number was in his messages..so i stepped out on my phone..called it and a female picked up..i came back in and asked him to be honest and tell me who it was ..he went from sugar to shit...he kept telling me with the dumbest look and tone "idk what you talkin about" so i told him that i called and the girl told me they slept together, using reverse psychology, originally she told me that they knew each other from the navy and everybody knows each other..she is also military and stationed in San Diego..we live in Norfolk. Long story short, i got him to confess to sleeping with her the day before he left to come home and she had been texting him non stop..i found messages but he deleted his response...he told me that they met at a bar and she invited him to his room and she never knew he was married but knew about our daughter..she literally just had a baby and got pics on fb of her kissing her bby daddy..i asked about all of the details because i wanted to know and i know thats weird but he told me that he didnt cum and the sex wasn't good..we have a 3 year age difference..i was his first and he never got a chance to be out there and see other women..he has never slept with anyone but in the past i have caught him looking at hookers, just pics...he told me he doesn't love her and blocked her off of everything and that she caught feelings and just had small talk stringing her on..her number was never saved..she knew that we were fighting and told him to "handle that situation" as if she had a place and little does this bitch know, i can show her better than i can tell her what her position is as his WIFE. but i need advice...i haven't eaten..ive been sick all day..and just crying..my mom died last year and i have very bad anxiety and depression behind that and im scared to be alone..all that i have is my little family..were from Tennessee...im in nursing school as well and work full time..i talked to my dad and his mom and my dad told me that i wouldn't be foolish to still want my marriage but i cant get the visual of him on top of her out of my head..im literally throwing up thinking about it..i love my husband and im passed the fact that he slept with her and i do believe that there was no feeling behind it but i feel so lost because the only response i get from him is idk..his communication sucks..seperation is in the air and he says that he feels like he just needs space because he's finding hisself and that its not about sex, he just wants freedom..and i told him that when he got married and became a dad that all of that was no longer an option..he wants to be young and dumb and constantly tells me that im perfect and that im not the problem, he just has problems with hisself and doesn't know what he wants..he said that he doesn't want to take the chance in seperating and i won't be there when he's ready and that he loves me and our daughter..idk...if i sound foolish please let me know..i just need advice..i dont want to leave and im all about security..i camt afford my bill on my own and trying to finish school...i told my dad that I'll do what needs to be done for me and my daughter and once i get my degree i can go..i love him and wont deny that but that was the ultimate disrespect and i feel like a door mat. Feelings don't go away and im more so shocked at the situation because it came out of no where ..i thought we were good...i told him that if we were to work it out that i would only stay if he went to counseling for HISSELF. All of what i said isn't all that happened..i just tried to break the story up..Thanks to everyone that read this and replied