How does your man show appreciation for you?

I’ve been very down on myself lately because it feels like my boyfriend never compliments me as a person. Everything he says is geared towards my looks, and my body.

So I’m assuming his love language is touch.

My love language is words of affirmation, and doing things for me.

Any chance I get I will say “I love you.”

Any chance I get I will thank him for buying dinner, for inviting me to something, or for coming over. I thank him for the smallest things because I want him to feel appreciated

When he listens to me rant I will thank him for being so patient, and etc

I’ve expressed to him several times that I want him to tell me more often what he likes and that I want to feel appreciated more. He says he’s not the best with words, and it hurts my feelings.

I’m not asking for a love poem.. I’m just asking him to say “thank you” when I do something he likes or appreciates.

I often find myself looking at him in awe, and just feeling so lucky I have him. Times like those I will say “I love you” or “thank you for being you” or something along those lines

For example, I have social anxiety and it takes a LOT out of me to spend the day with his family or friends. And it’s not even reciprocated yet because I don’t have a big family and I’m not talking to my mom right now, so the only person he’s met is my sister. When I go out of my way to include myself in his family events, its like he never gives me any credit for anything. It makes me feel pretty shitty and want to stop trying.

This past weekend, we did everything he wanted to do. I didn’t want to go black friday shopping bc of the crowds, but he did so I stuck it out and went. I didn’t want to spend the whole day at his moms’, but we did. His friends came over last night and stayed well past midnight, when we agreed to them leaving at 10:30. There were several places I didn’t want to go but went because I knew he wanted to. I even picked some “going out plans” like going to dinner and a hockey game or a football game but he didn’t want to do that.

I told him “next weekend I’d like to pick what I want to do since this weekend was kind of your weekend.” And he said “ok that’s fine. As long as it’s not sitting in the house.” It kills him to sit in the house for a weekend. But I’m very introverted and would much rather curl up with a movie than go out on the town. I’d even be down for like dinner and a movie one night but he always has to do too much. He’ll want to go out to eat, then bar hopping all across town, then calling and inviting his friends and etc. I feel like my weekend should be my weekend to pick what I want to do.

But anyway I’ve kind of rambled a bit, what does your boyfriend say to make you feel special, or is it more of like what my boyfriend does with touching and complimenting your looks and body? And what’s your and your SOs love language?