I love my husband and he helps as much as he can with our child but on the first night we brought home our son, I was exhausted from 60 hrs of labour and an emergency c-section, so I asked him to look after the baby while I slept. We’d gotten into bed and Husband held him on his chest and fell asleep. When he suddenly awoke he dropped our baby on the floor from a height of around 70cm.

He was exhausted too and fell asleep after 2 days on the hospital and Luckily the baby fell on our thick soft carpet. I obviously insisted we immediately go to the hospital and baby was absolutely fine. So what should have been a nice first night home became 14 hrs in a&e.

When we got back, baby would not sleep in the cot & wanted to be held. I held him for 2 weeks straight, during the night I stayed awake to hold him to make sure he didn’t fall etc as baby hates being put down now.

Then husband went back to work and essentially resumed his life, work, football, gaming etc while I’m still holding little one all the time.

Baby is now 3 months and still doesn’t like being put down instead of when playing on the mat. He sleeps in bed with me (I’m only half asleep ever) and husband sleeps in another room since baby is 3 weeks old.

Baby still has Moro reflex and freaks out when we try to put him down which I think all comes down to that first night.

Husband is helping out loads more now but I still have deep rooted resentment towards him for dropping him. He would be so hurt if he knew this but I kind of hate him a little for it and I think it comes out in the way I treat him sometimes. I don’t mean to and I immediately feel bad and apologise.

Am I overreacting or could that fall have set off a chain of events in which baby has a need to be held and a fear of being put down (baby’s hands and legs flail about as if he’s scared he’s falling)?

Any thoughts good or bad appreciated, thanks

I’m particularly interested to know if anyone else’s baby has these behavioural traits but wasn’t dropped. Thanks guys x