What’s his deal??

Question

Alright y’all it’s about time I’ve made a post to get help on a boy. So this boy and I have been good friends for years. We’re both pretty flirty people and there’s been hints of that in our text messages (we were long distance friends) but he also had a girlfriend. We ended up at the same university and are in the same club together. Back in September after a party, after sobering up, we made out. He was being flirty that next Saturday and Sunday we talked about everything and I told him I don’t wanna just keep hooking up if I’m not going to be in a relationship. He said he didn’t want a relationship so we said we would stop.
Two weeks later it happened again when we were watching a movie together (100% sober) and we called that the “one time thing” meaning the one exception to our “no kissing terms” we set two weeks before. 
Ever since then we’ve basically made out every other weekend. Some after a little alcohol some 100% sober. We’re both attracted to each other (he’s told me) and we’ve loved each other for so long I just don’t know. 
Two weeks ago when we were making out (sobering up after a party) he mentioned that he really likes me. And he says he likes kissing me and dancing with me. When he was leaving he was saying how I make it hard to leave and just wanted to keep kissing me. 
When we get together it feels more than a hook up now but maybe I’m being crazy? I don’t know.
The next day, I finally built up the courage to tell him a super personal secret. We talked about it a little and then we were sorta cuddling but not kissing. I eventually leaned over for a soft kiss and he smiled and said he was waiting for me to make the first move. When we were hugging goodbye he told me he loved me. Internally I was like “whattttt?????” because that only ever happened in the past jokingly over text or casually on the phone a few times when we were in high school.
 
Because we’re in the same friend group (of 24) it is a little awkward. Everyone knows we’re close and most of them know we make out a lot but I don’t know. Yesterday we had a mixer with another small group and he sorta acts flirty with those girls although he told me he doesn’t think they’re attractive. 
The thing that concerns me the most is that he doesn’t like acknowledge my entrance a lot. Like if anyone else comes he’ll be like “hi _____ how are you?” But like we just smile at each other and move on. I doubt if he even likes me (even as a friend) sometimes. Has anyone experienced this or can give any tips?

Answer

Seems like the typical freshman boy, post-breakup with his high school GF. They want to be free to hook up with whomever, but they are coming off of a relationship in which they have been accustomed to saying “I love you” and having their physical needs satisfied without having to really earn it. They don’t know how to properly delineate between friends who are girls, FWB, relationships and hook ups and they end up trampling on girls hearts while they figure it out. 
Straight up: He’s taking advantage of your feelings and using you for his physical needs. 
But you can definitely give him one more shot and ask if he wants to be in a relationship. If he says no, I would try and move on so you don’t get too hurt by him.
I mean hey, you can keep hooking up with him too, just be prepared for him to hurt you and have the friendship ruined. 
I’m in my late 20’s now so I feel like I can say this with good authority ☺️. I had my high school boyfriend, my freshman year post-breakup free for all, learned the hard way quite a few times, and now I’m happily married. Dating is a shit show in college, but it’s a fun time too.

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He might just want FWB. I would decide what you want, and then sit down and ask him what he wants.  It sounds like you told him you wanted a relationship but then fell into just being FWB with him.

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Honestly, the best way to solve this and is for both of you to talk about how he feels about you and if he sees it being serious and if he says yes then you can tell him he confuses you with flirting with other girls and how he treats you in public places with large crowds. If he really likes you and wants to be with you he will show it . It won’t matter who’s around. Trust me I was in your shoes 7 months ago and I dropped him even though it was hard cause we also started as friends and we had almost 2 years of friendship. It was very confusing as well cause he expected the first move from me when he sent me mix signals all the time . So the best is to talk and see what he wants out of it and if he doesn’t want to and isn’t taking it serious. Then you know your answer. 
I wish you luck though! Sending you good positive energy✨