Is my boyfriend obsessed?

Question

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, and we just moved in together in July. Things were really great, but ever since college started up again he’s been absolutely addicted to his video games. 
From the minute he wakes up he goes right to the PS4 to play Modern Warfare. Then gets stressed because he’s behind in his classes. He seems to put his wants over his needs and it’s seriously affecting me. 
I clean, do all of the laundry, buy all the groceries, pay most of the bills, and take care of our dog. Then when I ask him if he could take out the trash or do some dishes, he gets mad that I’m taking him away from his games. 
He claims that playing his games is his way of relaxing, and I understand that. But my way of relaxing is being with him, just watching a movie and cuddling. I feel bad if I’m seeming selfish right now, but I’m almost to my breaking point. 
I’m getting so tired of my happiness being set aside so he can “relax” and play his video games. 
It seems like he just expects me to do everything. Like this isn’t high school anymore, and I’m not your mom. He is 20, he just doesn’t take into consideration that him and I are a team, and that our relationship has two people, not just himself. 
I’ve tried expressing my concerns about his gaming habits to him and he just says that he wants to relax and that it helps him deal with stress, but then I just get offended because I want to be the one that makes him feel relaxed. 
Am I being ridiculous? Any tips would be great plz :’(

Answer

Me and my fiancé had the same problem he would play video games non stop and be on his phone we set rules to where he can only play video games if I’m not home, I’m sleeping, or just on my phone, we have a little one on the way so he’s doing better with it

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He needs to grow up. I'm sorry, I know you love him....but he is putting video games over you, his responsibilities, and himself. Does he even brush his teeth or eat in the morning? Does he have a job? Does he ever just spend time with you without you asking? You are not his mama and you are not selfish. Try fixing it first, if he calls you selfish or doesn't change...drop him.

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He sounds like he might be addicted and is using games to cope with anxiety. I would have a serious talk with him if you feel like it’s ruining your relationship.

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He obviously needs to get his priorities straight, you need to have a real serious conversation with him. Put your foot down and demand his attention so you can talk. Remember a healthy relationship works not with compromise but with collaboration. Maybe you can find some sort of "schedule" with his video games and chores and spending time together. 
Let him know you want a partner, someone to grow with you and love you. You dont want to be his mom, telling him when to do things like take out the trash. Hes a grown man, you've been together a long time, he should know what hes supposed to be doing.

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You’re not being ridiculous but honestly, it sounds like you’ve “trained” him to be this way by accepting and rewarding the behavior in the past. I wouldn’t be okay with that and it sounds like you’re not either. You need to have a serious sit down with him and explain what you give and what you expect back. Also, be forgiving - change doesn’t happen over night.

Is my boyfriend obsessed?

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