How to gain self love/respect?

Question

I have depression and anxiety issues and after getting broken up with by my bf of 3 years I lost it. I keep hooking up with guys to feel loved but after it’s over I feel so horrible and used. Once a guy kissed me on the forehead and I hadn’t been kissed on the forehead since being with my ex. I started crying uncontrollably. I can’t seem to stop seeing guys that don’t care about me, I want love so bad. I know it should come from myself but I haven’t figured it out yet

Answer

I believe that you are having a very hard time getting over what you and your boyfriend had for three years and that’s understandable but it does take time to heal and I don’t think you’re giving yourself time to heal I think you’re making it worse￼. You’re making it worse by sleeping with other men instead of staying away from that and trying to take the time to understand yourself and your feelings and trying to take the time to understand who you are as a person and what you value in yourself. So when you’re out there sleeping with other guys I believe you’re doing it just to get a temporary fix or like a temporary feel good moment and then you just go right back into the depression mode and feeling bad about yourself. And it sounds like you keep repeating that cycle you need to break it and just be with yourself. My suggestion is to stop sleeping with other men and to just take time for yourself go do things that you love listen to your favorite music go watch your favorite movies hang out with your friends more often and if you’re 21 or older go out with your friends and get a few drinks and just let loose and have fun. But also while you do all that take the time to reevaluate who you are and think positive things about yourself. And try to love yourself because that’s what you need is to love yourself especially before you get back into another relationship. 
I know you want to feel loved by someone else but love has to come within yourself first. Once you gain self-love you will feel so much better and you might want to stay single because it might change your mind. Another thing I recommend is write down the things you like about yourself what is the good things that you notice about yourself or the good things you do for others. It’s a process but if you really want to learn to love yourself...you’ll do your best and you will get there. Keep your head up. ￼

How to gain self love/respect?

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