Break up - Need Advice

I was dating this guy for over a year until he broke up with me 5 days before my birthday through a text while I was at work because he found out I was looking for my own place to move into when he wanted to move in together. He has a daughter from a past relationship. Throughout our time together I got to meet his daughter and do things for her as her mother would. I grew to love her... We had a discussion about transitioning his 3 year old daughter to her own bed because she would sleep with us. He told me that I can sleep on the couch until she’s ready to transition so I told him that I wouldn’t be doing that and he then told me that we shouldn’t move in together so that same day I started looking for my own place. I was looking for my own place because I had my doubts due to several reasons: 1) He currently doesn’t have a full time job 2) His daughter is almost 4 and would sleep with us on the bed because he didn’t want to transition her to her own bed 3) He is a recovering addict who still smokes weed and 4) A few months prior to him breaking up with me, he broke up with me a first time because his ex and I were talking on facebook and she said some really eye opening things about him so after that my parents were against us moving in together (their trust for him was long gone).

The first and second time he broke up with me he told me to “fuck myself”, called me a “bitch” and a bunch of other names, said some hurtful things, and blocked me on everything. The day he broke up with me while I was at work, he did it through a text so I left my job to call him. He answered, called me names and said hurtful things, then blocked me. A few days after that he snap chatted me a video of his daughter which I didn’t reply. In addition, we had put an application for an apartment which I paid the total of $325 because he didn’t have money at the time. A few days later he gave me half. When he broke up with me he started yelling on the phone telling me to transfer his half back which I did. So I lost the $325 because he got pissed that I wanted to move to my own place.

There were multiple red flags that I ignored because I fell for him. I don’t want to get back with him because I know it wouldn’t have last because of the person he is, but I am still hurt by it. He is the type of person that everything is fine if it’s HIS way. If you have a different opinion than him, all hell breaks loose. Anyways, its been 3 months since he broke up with me and I am still hurt by it. I’ve talked to family and friends already, but I would like to ask for any advice that you all can offer from an outside perspective?

TIA!