How do you and your spouse “split” bills?

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My boyfriend and I have been living together for around 2 years. In the beginning he payed the rent, electricity, internet, his phone, his car Payment & insurance, and some smaller personal bills here and there - with no complaint, he chose to pay them. I pay for my car note, renters insurance, water bill, groceries, and we split our sons daycare payment. The bills he pays total up to around $2,000 per month. Mine total up to around $1,200. He makes $3,000 per month (36,000 per year) after tax. I make $1,500 per month ($15,000 per year). And he is also coming up on a $10,000 per year raise in the next month.
He complains to me about having to go half with me on our sons daycare payment, which is $40 between the both of us. He doesn’t buy our sons food or diapers or clothes, I have to. He gives me mouth about how I don’t “help” with any of the bills. When each week he gets paid he throws his $200 “extra money” (that’s what he calls it) and splurges on food. I do have a savings account. Saving for the future, emergencies, and our baby on the way. He reprimands me for not helping with the bills but I barely get to save any money because when he “runs out” I have to buy him food for work and pick up his slack if he doesn’t give me his half of the daycare payment. 
I just need to know if I’m being selfish or if I’m wrong and I also want to know how you all do it! 
Side note: I’m working on my pharmacy tech certificate, which is why I make so little as of right now!

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Me and my boyfriend have always paid EVERYTHING in half, and never had a problem🙂

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I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. He makes more money. He should be paying more in expenses. It’s not like you don’t help at all. Maybe his “extra money” should be going in a savings account instead? My husband makes more money so he  pays the major bills ( rent and electricity) as well as his car note and furniture payments.  I pay the  smaller ones ( water, internet, our son’s insurance) as well as our car insurance. It works for us.

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We don't split bills. My husband works full time and I stay home and pay bills with the weekly income while raising our son. When I go back to work, the money I make will go to savings.

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if it's causing tension then evaluate what's reasonable to the both of you. there isn't a one size fits all in terms of finances. 
i'm not moving out with my bf til next year but we've divided based on percentage of typical gross monthly income for rent and for other bills, i pay 1/3 and he pays 2/3. 
which ends up with him paying more than 3x the amount i will as at that point he'll be making more than 3x my base salary. 
ex. we agreed on 30% for rent. so his contribution will be 5k while i pay a minimum of 1.5k (more if i make more than month). 
however, that's what works for us. some couples go 50/50 exactly, switch off bills, do a different percentage, etc.

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My husband and I both work full time and have a joint account. So all our money gets deposited into the same account and expenses paid as well. Even though we both make different salaries, we don’t pay bills ”individually.” 
I pay the bills out of our joint account just because I am the “scheduler” of our family 😂. 
If we want to purchase something that is a high expense, we discuss it together. He has never gone out and just outright bought something expensive without my knowledge or agreement. 
The only time he’s done that was my diamond earrings he surprised me with on our 3 year anniversary. That was a surprise because he managed to do it without me noticing. And I notice everything or so I thought 🤪

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Before we got married, I paid rent, internet, and electric. My husband paid insurance, groceries, and our phones. It probably wasn’t exactly 50/50, but we never stressed about it. We always just kind of shared our money. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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He’s got an extra $1k after bills and he’s complaining? While you have 300 after bills? Wtf. I’m sorry, girl :( why can’t he take more off your plate? Maybe discuss a budget...🧐

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Finances are so important to talk about. You both need to sit down and go through it all: how much he earns, you earn, all bills, house expenses, etc. then decide how they will all be paid. It’s not fun to talk about finances but it’s very important to a relationship!

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My husband pays the house bills, renos and property taxes. I pay daycare ($1100/mo), my car, insurance, phone and most groceries.

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My fiancé lives with me. He makes more then me by about 20k, but we live in my house. All the bills are in my name except his school loan and car. We sat down and divided up all the common bills and he gives me a set amount per month. I take care of my own bills and our common bills and he takes care of his own. Neither of us is weird about money. If I need more he gives it to me. When we get married we’ll have a joint account for spending and saving and then we’ll have our own separate accounts to spend as we like. I don’t want to have to ask to buy clothes, purses, etc and he doesn’t either. The money we make will go into a joint account and then we’ll both get the same set amount to spend. I think that will be a good way to share and spend as we please.

How do you and your spouse “split” bills?

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