How do you get your spouse on the same page??

My husband and I just had a heated argument because I was getting our almost 2 year old ready for bed and she was just messing around. I thought him and I decided an appropriate consequence to this was him not reading to her because there wasn’t enough time with her just messing around. Instead of following through with the consequence, he decided to read a book to her anyway (since she started to get upset). I called him out on it immediately and told him he wasn’t following through. He got upset with me by saying I was taking away his time with her as a punishment. I responded by telling him he could get her ready for bed any time which he only seems to do when I’m not home (rarely). He also NEVER gets up with her. I am always the one to get up with her around 7 on the weekends and 6 during the week. I am up at least a half hour early to get myself ready and have time to get her ready. This all happens while he is sleeping at least 45 minutes to multiple hours longer. I feel like he’s saying I don’t allow him time with her but he also doesn’t help me or volunteer to get her ready for bed/the day unless I’m not there. I’m not sure how to discuss this topic with him again without us getting upset and it needs to be talked about because we are expecting another little one in March. Are my expectations too high? Do we need to write down a plan?