My baby can't be soothed by touch alone?

Question

I was reading how many people who are sleep training right now calm their babies/ soothe their babies when they get upset in their crib by comforting them through touch like patting them or rubbing them, but not picking them up. 
I have tried doing this but my baby can't be soothed or calmed just by me touching him. I have to physically pick him up or he will fuss and cry for what seems like 30 minutes to an hour, and by then he is wide awake and upset. 
Is anyone else's baby like this? Am I doing something wrong?

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No your not doing anything wrong. They dont learn to do that in one night. When I started I would let my baby fuss until it was clear to me patting her back or leaving the room wasnt going to work this time. I didnt go long enough that she's get so worked up because like you said they wake up more and it's harder starting over. So I'd pick her up then sooth her a bit holding her check diaper see if she wants to eat more then put her back down and all over again but let her fuss a few mins more each time. Eventually she got tired and passed out but I never let her cry it out and the 1st night we did that cycle like 10 times for an hour or two but eventually she went down and it got easier every night by a week we had it down

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Try the pick up put down method! My husband and I are giving that a shot this week.

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If you google sleep training there’s a bunch of different ways to do it. There is one that’s pick up and put back down. Maybe that’s what he would like!

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Doesn’t work for us either 🤷🏻‍♀️

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My baby is like that as well, if I do that he gets even more upset I think because obviously he would much rather me pick him up..I haven’t tried sleep training but by 6 months if my baby’s sleep hasn’t changed I might try it.

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Our baby doesn’t calm down when we do that either. We do it just to reassure we are still here and that he is okay.