My husbands family is Peruvian and I’ve been told Peruvians share EVERYTHING. Their feelings, struggles, decision, etc. Which is super awesome...most of the time. My husband and I got married just a few months ago in August and we’ve been struggling a lot.

Right after our wedding, we decided to rent a moving truck and drive all of our furniture and wedding gifts and everything we owned across the country to our new home. This was going to be our honeymoon redo (was in Florida but then a hurricane cut it short). Along the way, we hydroplaned, crossing to the other side of the interstate, right in front of a semi truck. We should have died. Even thought we wore our seatbelts, we were still projected from the vehicle and were injured. I now suffer from PTSD, anxiety, and depression and we lost all of our possessions.

With the long recovery, battling it out with insurance, trying to pay rent while unable to find a job that will take us with our permanent injuries, and slowly collecting furniture and other items, we are still happily married, but struggle like crazy. We are young college students just starting out (19 and 22).

We made plans with his family for Christmas and planned various activities. While traveling across the country again, we received a message from his brother that the family (probably just himself and his wife) felt like we rush our decisions and don’t consult the family to get their opinions or to see if they think it’s the best way to go about something. He claimed renting the truck was a decision he should have been consulted about, and that the activities we planned were rushed to be planned, etc.

We later learned that he didn’t realize we were still struggling with the backlash from our accident.

How do I handle this situation? Do I need to consult his family constantly about decisions that nowhere near affect them? Do I need to call them to update them on my recovery and my feelings constantly?

My family has been the kind to only reach out and discuss felling s and things like that when it’s important or we need help or someone to talk to. This is very strange and weird for me.