Ok let’s start this from the beginning my husband and I met five years ago at work. I was also in school full time. We have a 13 year age gap, he’s 38 now and I’m 25. We were set up on a blind date by one of our coworkers that we were both acquaintances with. Long story short we hit it off super well and became basically inseparable a year and a half later I moved in and six months after that he proposed and we got married 7 months after that. Now my relationship with her has never been good. She hated me from the start because I was tattooed pierced and had fashion colored hair. (I’m a cosmetologist so I don’t find anything wrong with that).

During the time we were dating she would randomly show up to his house unannounced and several times we were naked and or in the middle of doing something so I told him it made me uncomfortable and he addressed it with her. Well she kept doing it. At this point I have to tell her do not show up unannounced anymore or you won’t be welcomed. Well she continued again. Also at this point one of my brother in laws lived with us and that’s just a story itself but he didn’t like me taking control of what he viewed as his house. (He didn’t even pay rent) so he has talked shit about me to my husbands family as well.

About a month after we got engaged she called my husband ON HIS BIRTHDAY not to wish him a happy birthday but to tel him and I quote “you know it’s easier to break off an engagement then a marriage” anyways my husband is so mad at this he is speechless doesn’t say anything just hangs up and throws his phone. This isn’t the beginning of her being a bitch but this is where it gets to the point that I have become uncomfortable even being in a room with her. She has talked so much crap about me one of his brothers who lives out of state who I’ve never met hates me on principle because of her this has caused major issues. I finally got tired of the backhanded comments and the shit talking when I was even in the room. She has disrespected me and my husband multiple times in front of the family. Criticized our choices in our marriage and our home, created a riff between me and three of four of my husbands brothers and repeatedly put me down for my personal style and choices so much so that I told my husband and her that I will no longer be attended any family functions and holidays with them and that I will see his one brother and sister in-law separately to keep myself from being disrespected and put down because I already have anxiety and depression and have already cut members of my family out for being toxic and a negative influence on my life.

I have not told my husband to cut off contact or anything I have actually encouraged him to spend time with them and do things with them because they are after all his family i have only taken myself out of the equation which my husband fully agrees with and stands behind me on. If he wants to do anything else it’s his choice and I won’t pressure him into making any one decision about it.

She recently called and I explained to her my reasoning behind all of this and she flat out denied doing any of it after I had heard it all from her mouth. I then said that I have anxiety and depression and don’t need this kind of negative influencing family around stressing me out (mind you I’ve gone to therapy have good coping mechanisms and am medicated for my mental health) she had the audacity to tell me to go get therapy and it it was her fault my feelings were easily hurt. I said excuse me I’ve been to therapy and I’m medicated and who gives you the right to speak to me like that. She proceeded to put on the water works and im like yeah sorry I’m not easily manipulated. She then proceeded to try to guilt trip me by saying she’s old and doesn’t feel like she has much time left and that she wants to reestablish a family relationship. I flat out told her I wasn’t mentally or emotionally prepared for that. I feel like the only reason she is reaching out is because she knew we were trying for a baby.

Well surprise I’m now pregnant and they’re getting told over Christmas and I will not have any of them around while I’m pregnant. My question is do you think I’m over reacting and once the baby is here I don’t really want them around it. Is that ok