orgasming... or not?

Question

i recently discovered masturbating and it is amazing. i mostly just rub my clit and watch lesbian porn. i know that im definitely doing something right because i get really hot and my heart beats fast and i like can’t speak or move but i don’t ever actually cum. is this still an orgasm? how do i make myself cum?

Answer

Cuming is just a slang term for having an orgasm.
I know that this is a rather long answer, but your body and sexuality is complex.

Let us start with what is an orgasm: An orgasm is the release of the tension, energy and stress that built up in your muscles, your body and your mind when you got sexually stimulated. When you get sexually stimulated, signals form thousands of nerve endings in your clitoris flows into your brain. Tension builds and builds in your muscles and body. At some point these signals overwhelm your brain. Your brain shuts down into a trance like state for a second or two, and the tension and stress gets a chance to release in waves of contractions, heat and pleasure, lasting a few seconds. After you orgasm, you feel satisfied, good and relaxed, maybe even glowing and sleepy. One thing most women experience is contractions in their pelvic floor muscles. It is easy to feel these rhythmic contractions when you rest your finger tip on your anus.

That is the definition of an orgasm - it is the release of sexual tension. Not the release of any fluids or making sounds.

As you should know by now, your vagina secretes various different types of discharge during your cycle. This comes from your vaginal walls and your cervix. It can be wet, watery, sticky, creamy, super slippery and stretchy or sometimes even jelly like. When you get excited, your vaginal walls swell up and plasma is squeezed from the cells to lubricate your vagina and prepare it for penetration. Some women get very wet, some not so much.

There are also a number of other fluids. Your Bartholin’s glands lubricates and disinfects your vaginal opening. This fluid is the same as a guy’s pre-cum. The Skene’s glands next to your pee hole may leak a few drops of sweet tasting fluid. Some women can leak as much as a teaspoon or two from these glands. This is called female ejaculation. Few women can do it in a noticeable way however. 

Then there is squirting or gushing from our bladders. Urine forms at a rapid rate in our bladders when we get stimulated. Releasing these large quantities of fluid is called squirting/gushing, even though it is actually pee. If you let it dry, you can smell that it is urine.

A little bit about your anatomy, just to make sure you understand how everything works. Your clitoris is your main pleasure organ. It has 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ in the human body. Your clitoris is the equivalent of a guy’s penis when it comes to sexual stimulation. Your clitoris also goes deep (about 15 cm) inside your body, forming a double wishbone structure. 2 Bulbs and 2 legs. Some women can stimulate these deep structures from inside their vaginas.

Your vagina is mainly for making and delivering babies. It is a birth canal, and outlet for menstrual flow and a safe place for a partner to leave his sperm to get you pregnant. It is largely numb and without feeling inside to protect you from trauma during sex, menstruation, infections and child birth.

So you have to rub over, around or on your clitoris when you masturbate. You can also press, squeeze, tap or vibrate your clitoris. The idea is to do what feels good, and explore from there to make it feel better and better until you orgasm. Even during sex with a partner, most women also need extra clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

Feel free to explore and discover all the pleasures that your body holds. Take your time and keep on doing it and improve your experience. Throughout your life, your body changes and there is always something new to discover. Masturbation is natural, fun, healthy, and good for you. It is an essential part of growing up and learning about your body and sex, and it is a very safe outlet for urges. It is an opportunity to spend some quality time with yourself, learn to accept your body and sexuality. After you orgasm, just spend a few minutes of quiet time with yourself, just relaxing.

Answer

Idk.. if you’re not making noise you’re probably not cuming.. just build tension and keep building. Trust me you’ll know if you came or not

orgasming... or not?

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