How do you know if you’re doing the right thing as a parent?

I practice attachment parenting and bedshare with my 9 month old daughter. Recently people have started making comments about her being in her own bed even if it means leaving her to cry. She spent 9 months in my womb all warm and never alone, and now she’s spent 9 months with me responding to her every cry and cuddled up with her mommy and milk. I’m a first time mom and have only ever done what feels natural for us. I just HATE not knowing if I’m raising her the right way.