I have been living with my grandma and my best friend for about 7 months now. I am autistic, and if I have issues with something that someone does, like for an example: when loading the dishwasher, my grandma faces all the knives up so if I grab silverware to put away I cut my hands or almost stab them because of the blades facing up.

Well with my best friend who I've known since middle school, her and I share a room and bathroom. She sleeps with a fan on, that I dont mind as long as it's in low with nothing brushing against the fan amplifying the sound. She does often times turn it up, forcing me to sleep out in the livingroom if the fan is too loud. I have a plug in heater that foes make noise but will stop once room is at a certain temp. I have a problem with people moving my stuff from where I have them without telling me why and where too, unless they put it back exactly where it was to start off with. My best friend uses my hair products leaving the containers half empty when I use them or the bottles contorted. I'm not OCD but I like things a certain way. Every time I try bringing up one of several things to her that bothers me, after me spending weeks going out of my way bending backwards just so I can avoid fights, which means me trying to ignore things till it builds up. I leave notes as a way of me leaving hints that something is wrong, like I ask for something to be done like her to clean her makeup out of the sink or to leave my stuff alone, politely minding my ps and qs. And I get notes back in response saying to stop being negative. I cant meet her boyfriend because I'm too negative. Her and I want to get an apartment together but cant afford it, if I kick her out of my grandma's she's on the streets. I cant go to family about these things nor my therapist. I get so hurt that it adds on to my depression of me not finding work for 5 months and a possibility of me needing another back surgery. I dont know what to do anymore