Hey guys!! So my husband’s Birthday was recently. I wanted to surprise him with a weekend trip somewhere we could just chill and enjoy each other’s company by getting away from the city. Backstory: my husband grew up near this particular area and always mentions taking me here to show me specific trails and caves. He also complains daily of the people in the city. A conversation recently happened between us and my mom where we discussed bed and breakfasts and how fun they sound. My husband does contracting work and was working 60+ hours each week recently and now has time off thankfully during the holidays and his birthday. And finally, my husband spends a lot of his time playing video games and lounging around the house.

I find a great location that specializes in Scottish traditions so I thought it might be fun to try the grand meals they offer (he loves food), the location that’s not far from the city but just enough getaway, and going on the trails he speaks of. We arrive to the surprise area and immediately he gets an attitude and becomes upset, after a great day trying new restaurants and driving to this area, because it’s not “what he imagined” and he says I should know he hates the woods as well as why would I take him to a place that’s in the middle of nowhere to do nothing. He says this was actually planned for me, and that I knew this would be something he wouldn’t like. His parents have land away from the city. Every morning he has coffee on the porch and wakes up early with his dad when we visit. We used to ride four wheelers at night in the woods they lived near. I should add that I only work 3 days a week so I’m not itching for time away. We have one on the way but no kids at home. And our hobbies are usually done in the house.

Now, I do admit. In the past, I’ve been bad at getting gifts that I think he may like and that he could use versus something that he says “he’d actually like and use”. I’m also bad with details sometimes when trying to get specific things that pertain to electronics with intense parts. Honestly, I thought this would be something he’d enjoy.

I know this is long and I know there are limited details about who he is and what he likes. But he still has an attitude about it this morning and not only is pouting around but also is making me feel like crap for this weekend. We’re here until tomorrow morning. I just am wondering, do you think I was wrong for this idea?

Final update: I asked him to go on one of the trails with me after a while of letting each other cool off, and during, he opened up that he really had a hard time accepting that this was all for him and why. Now he can’t stop apologizing. Sounds like he feels that we don’t have many truly intimate moments lately when we get the chances and that this trip wouldn’t be any different. But we’ll talk more later at home and for now, enjoy the rest of the trip. Thanks for all of your input!