In October my husband went away for a month for work, he's Navy. He came back in November and we had sex and everything but I could tell things were different. Days went by and Thanksgiving came around. To make a long story short, I found out he cheated on me with a girl that he met a few days before he came home. They slept together twice. I saw her number and found time to call it..she's also in the military..they met at a bar and she claims they didn't do anything but i got him to confess. Prior to this day i kept seeing her number but i didnt think anything of it because it looked weird so i thought it was a spam call but then it showed up late at night so i got more suspicious..anyway, He confessed to cheating..We got into it for daysss..the day that i found out i asked for a divorceand he begged for counseling and i told him that i wanted to separate and go from there..he still wanted marriage counseling..I can see our call and text log on AT&T, so i had saw that even after Thanksgiving he was still having conversations with her. Even though her number is blocked, when im not around, i can still see messages from blocked numbers. Their conversations were all sexual and they were sexting..he never talked about leaving me but he was feeding her sweet nothings as if they were going to be together..in the messages she kept calling him Josh and saying that she couldn't wait to move to Florida with him and basically talked about replacing me 😑 my husband's name is Antonio and we live in Virginia...lol...i confronted him about all of this and he got his number changed..this was the first week of December and he hasn't talked to her since. I will admit that I've been making his life hell as well as hers and i know she didnt deserve it but after she found out about me she basically told him to put me in check..i been with my husband for 7 years and married for 5..we have a 3 year old and just found out that we are expecting #2. Baby #2 was conceived Nov.26 according to my OB. When i confronted him, He told me that it was just something to do, he liked the attention and a part of him wonders if the grass is greener on the other side but he worries that its not if he leaves because he knows that he has a good wife..he told me that he didn't tell her his real name or anything about him because it was nothing serious and she caught feelings...i went off on him again because in her defense its sick to play with a persons emotions like that as well as mine..he does admit that he loves me but he's not in love like he use to be but doesn't want to leave. I feel numb to the entire situation...i feel like i have the upper hand in this situation on both of them simply because they are military and im on the fence of getting their commands involved. As crazy as this sounds, im not mad about the physical part. Its more so the verbal. The text. I posted screenshots below of her messages..i couldn't get his..printed it all and got it in a folder because like i said i was debating on getting his command involved. This was all in the beginning of December..since then we have been okay for the sake of our Daughter..just trying to keep peace in the house until we start counseling in a few days..I start nursing school in May and im just trying to get my shit together incase this entire situation goes left. He has been apologizing and hasn't stopped and is more excited about the new baby than i am 😕 and still talks about things in the future and includes me in it as if this shit never happened...He has been sleeping on the couch as well for a month. Im pissed but i can't lie like i dont miss the affection..before he left we were fine and i didn't think him coming home for cali would be like this..i feel like i got hit by a bus..just so lost...the way he's acting you would think i cheated..he's not affectionate and its almost like he's forcing his feelings for me to leave. I asked him why is he acting like he never had a ouce of love for me and he told me that he does and he thinks that hes acting out of guilt. He said that he's embarrassed and its keeping him from seeing me the same way because he can't believe that he even did it. He hasn't told me he loved me up until 3 days ago and just started giving me kisses and hugs before he leaves for work like he use to. I told him that i just dont understand how the day before i found out and while he was away it was bay this a baby that and i love you..he even sent gifts to the house while he was gone and the day after i found out he cheated he turned all that sweet stuff off like i did something to him..he claims its out of guilt...idk how to feel.i just needed to vent..im not doing anything behind the kids because i want them to come into a home filled with love even if that means leaving him...but my concern is that i feel so stupid for staying and working it out..people keep telling me once a cheater always a cheater and some say to do counseling but he slept with somebody..like literally put his penis in another vagina..weather it was something to do and he had a weak moment 4 days before he came home or whatever he still did it..i don't normally tolerate this shit..but i been cheated on by bfs..this is my husband...i just feel so stupid for staying and considering working it out! I posted screenshots of her messages and a message that i sent to him last week while we were arguing. i also texted her off of a fake app..the last two are pictures of me that i sent him while he was at work just to toy with him... and my husband and our family