What should I do?

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So I just graduated from collage and me and my boyfriend of 5 years just got engaged. I lost my virginity to him senior year, but I wasn't his first. This has always bugged me, but I have never been able to bring myself to tell him. But now that we're getting married I feel that I need to. What should I do?

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That should be the least of your worries.There is a Spanish saying that says lo que no fue en tu año no te hace daño...it can be translated to whatever your partner did with other people before being with you, should not concern you, it mostly refers to the past.

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Why does it bother you? Most guys lose their virginity before girls anyways. All that should matter is that you love each other and you have the ring 2 prove it. Congrats!

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Why does it bug you?

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It's really not an issue since it seems your man is faithful and she's just a nuisance, why can't you both just block her number or block her on facebook and be done with it? That's what I'd do

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If it's bothering you and could come between you, you should definitely talk about it calmly using lots of 'I' statements. Can I recommend premarital counseling? IMHO it gives you a solid foundation to continue building your relationship on, and helps you hash out what your life expectations are.

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Before my husband and I got together, we had both been with other people. For the first year his ex would text him and say how much she missed him but eventually she moved on and we haven't heard anything since. 
It is really crazy you're still hearing from her. I think if she wasn't still in your lives it wouldn't bother you has much that he was with her before you. Block her in every way that you can so you don't see what she's said. She sounds very immature and slightly crazy!! But it's true what people are saying, he picked you to have forever so it doesn't matter what happened in the past. It's a problem because it hasn't been left in the past yet. Once there is no contact with her it'll help a ton. Good luck!

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It wouldn't normally bother me, but his ex still hangs around. When she isn't welcome by either of us. When we had been together for about a year she texted him saying that she missed the sex, which i don't blame her. But when he rejected she said "what she doesn't know, doesn't hurt her"; and of course that bothered me! And it still does to this day. And even now she's 27 and still single, and she sends him snap chats and texts, which all go unanswered unless answered by me. She'll randomly text ME out of no where telling me how beautiful I am and wishing me a good day, then turns around to him ranting that I'm not good enough for him, and he should be marrying her instead. It's almost like she never grew up from when they were together. I guess it just bothers me that she can be such a ragging biotch, and be so fake at times.

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You can tell him it bothers you but you guys have been together for a long time and you obviously are the one he chose above all else. You are forever going to be his girl. His past shouldn't matter.

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