I left my 7 year abusive relationship about 11 months ago! I am 28, I wasn’t going to wait around to find a next partner to start a family with .. so I got a donor and did it on my own. I am now 37 weeks pregnant and I am 3 weeks away from meeting my baby girl.

My ex found out I’m pregnant, and contacted me abusing me first last week.. threatening me.. thinking I did it with someone or I was seeing someone ( not that it’s any of her business ) she didn’t know how far along I was she just knew I was pregnant.

Anyways a week went by and she messaged me yesterday saying she loves me and she knows I’m due in a few weeks ( someone clearly has told her, my town is very small ) not that I have anything to hide anyways..

she then went on saying how she wants to do it with me .. and she wants me and my baby and her to be one. I have told her so many times that I do not miss our relationship that it was toxic and unhealthy and I do not want my child around that kind of behaviour. She was very emotionally abusive and verbally abusive towards me. Nothing I ever did was right. We were always on and off.. since I have freely been out of the relationship I have really seen how unhappy I have been for so long and why I stayed for so long was because I always felt so stuck.

Anyways she didn’t stop repeating her self yesterday.. I was pretty firm and blunt with how this is never going to be her baby and we will never ever be a family together ..

I need to do what’s right for my child. The old me would of taken her back months ago.. but I have changed so much being pregnant. She would be such a great mum like she is an Aunty to her sister baby.. I do not doubt that .. but we just was so bad together .. she never cared about my feelings .. when I was sick I got no care from her being sick.. or when I had surgery.. she showed no empathy or sympathy.. she didn’t help me around the house .. she basically lived off me without ever feeling like she had to help.. she was very messy .. she left all her shit all over the place.. she wouldn’t help me with OUR animals ... I was very very unhappy. She would always ask me who I’m talking to or why I’m going to see my family when I hardly saw them but we saw her family everyday.. why I’m talking to my brother. Always get made at me when I was to tired to have sex ... I was so so over it. I have told her numerous times that we will never do this together. I am constantly repeating my self over and over again.

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Has anyone else been through something similar? She makes me feel bad for her but it isn’t about me anymore .