I never knew about this group until now. Well my name is Jeneba and I am a domestic violence survivor. I’m 26 (soon to be 27). I got into an abusive relationship at the age of 18. I thought this guy was my love he helped me find a place when my mom got evicted and basically didn’t want to take me out of 5 kids where she was going. She went to this lady’s house who didn’t like me because her daughter lied on me and I wasn’t having that. My mom chose there side over me and when she got evicted of all ppl to go to she goes to this stranger we don’t even know knowing I can’t go there so I was left to figure it out on my own. She even took my older sister with her smh. Anyways after that he helped me find a roommate and I was working to live and he moved in. Now I’ve always been independent and don’t want to live up under no man so him moving in wasn’t what I really wanted but he just wouldn’t go so I said ok whatever. The first time he put his hands on me was when I went to pick up some furniture for my room and I had a good guy friend of mine take me cuz he has a truck that can fit it. My roommates girlfriend opened the door and told him to bring it in while I said let’s wait for the guys to bring it in. He came saw my male friend was in my home I was paying for and started flipping out after the guy was gone. I didn’t think anything of it because I told him that’s just a friend someone I’ve known for years way before him. I always had a lot of male friends because females tend to not like me when they first see me then they get to know me and like me but they always judge me first. Anyways so he starts punching me on my thighs over and over again and I was so in shocked because I never had anyone hit me before like that(I was always a fighter growing up). It bruised my thighs for a while and I never seen my skin change a different color ever. I told him get the fuck out and he started saying sorry begging blahblah. I took him back and it only got worse. He choked me out a gun to my head punched me in the belly while I was pregnant and everything. I finally left after 4 years and two kids later and met my husband after. I don’t keep in contact with him even though we have kids and I’m so happy about that because I don’t want my kids to know that type of person. I have custody of them and although he sends his girlfriends at the time to call and text me saying awful things I still keep it pushing and so what I have to do for my kids. For a while I used to say I’m a domestic violence victim and one day during our custody battle I seen that it made him feel powerful knowing I felt like his victim because he lives off of fear. I corrected myself and everyone in the court room and made show to let them know I am a survivor. I survived what most ppl don’t and cant and I am damn near proud of myself. It’s hard to leave a domestic violence situation but when you do it makes you feel like you accomplished the world. I have yet to let that situation define me of who I am as a person and I am damn near proud of that. He thought he broke me but sees I’m still standing tall and a bad ass mom. To all my survivors out there, just know you are not alone. Side bar he found out I planned to write a book bout my situation and said he will sue me. I told him bring it on because you don’t control me and what I do.