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WHEN does the "wanting to have sex" part come into pregnancy? I feel bad, I'm 14 weeks, and my fiance and I haven't had sex AT ALL since I got pregnant. Part of it was due to the fact that the first 11 or 12 weeks I was spotting and it worried me, but also I just realllllyyyy don't want to. He is going crazy. I bought him a pocket pussy to help him out until I want to again, but between morning sickness, and the exhaustion I just am not feeling it. Help 😂

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I’m almost 19 weeks pregnant and we’ve only tried to have sex once this entire pregnancy and even that time lasted about 30 seconds before we stopped.
I just don’t feel like it. I’m tired, hot, (it’s summer in Australia), uncomfortable and can think of nothing worse than sex right now.
My husband is fine about it.
No pressure whatsoever and just wants me to be comfortable. 
I understand he may be feeling sexually frustrated but there are plenty of other ways to be intimate that don’t involve sex. 
Pregnancy and postpartum are really such a short period of time in the long haul of your relationship. Things will eventually get back to normal

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Just shy of 16 weeks here and we haven't since I found out either. I feel bad, but at the same time, he knows its not personal. I just dont want to be touched by anyone, really. So the idea of sex is just a no thanks. The last week or so though, I have noticed my sex drive starting to come back, but unfortunately my urges show up in the morning, and he leaves for work at 5am, so still not gonna work lol

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I’m 16 weeks tomorrow and we’ve had sex twice, once at 6 weeks and I spotted and the other at 8 weeks and I spotted quite badly then too - we haven’t tried since however when speaking to my husband about it and whether it’s bothering him he said he 1) didn’t even realise it had nearly been 8 weeks as he thinks my whole pregnancy has flown by so far. And 2) didn’t mind the not having sex as he’d rather that than us have to go to the hospital and us both freak out if I bleed badly (mutual feeling) so would rather be safe than sorry 🤷🏼‍♀️ we’ve scheduled it in for the night before my midwife appointment so if I do start bleeding I can mention it first thing in the morning at the apt 😂

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Mine started this week at 17 weeks and I'm not someone to want it all the time but man I want it all the time all day all night

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I started around 15 weeks. Currently 17 and we’ve done it a few times since then (finally getting past the hormones that made it unthinkable!)

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That’s a hard one, as it has a lot to do with hormones. I haven’t experienced avoiding sex in either of my pregnancy, though obviously we haven’t on days where I’ve felt extra tired or nauseous. It’s hard to wait the six weeks after (if you’re even feeling up to it then) and it was so hard when our daughter was real little...she was a professional c-blocker 🤣 trying to enjoy it before we’re in the newborn stage again

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I'm not always wanting to, but I'm always happy I did. I feel closer to him after and the sex is good once the bloating and constipation aren't bothering you as much.

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You might not want to. I know with my first and second I never wanted to but I do with my third. 🤷🏼‍♀️ hormones.

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