I've been thinking about leaving my husband for over 6 months now. I'm terrified of that much change and having the conversation with him. I don't make enough money to be able to afford to live on my own with our 4 year old, but I'm so tired of his mood swings and groping and insecurities that I'm ready to move on.

Let me explain why I want to leave, though.

It might not be that bad compared to other things, but I'm just tired of it.

We've been married almost 5 years, in that time I've been a stay at home mom, then started college, and now I'm going to school AND working full time. When I talked about starting school almost 3 years ago, it was a big fight. He didn't want me to go to school and his reasons were that he was afraid I'd "find someone better" and leave...understandable since he had an ex that cheated on him when she went back to college.

Then he kept fighting me about wanting to get a job. He said we couldn't afford child care costs if I worked, but he would constantly make me feel like I never contributed enough financially and that it was my fault we were always broke.

Every time the subject of me wanting some friends to talk to came up it was always "Friends just get you in trouble" and "I don't have any friends so why do you need them?" (He has friends, he just calls them family, so according to him they don't count).

Then, on Christmas I was talking about how no one seems to know what to get me, so I suggested to him that everyone should pitch in some money to pay for a year membership at a gym because I'm wanting to get fit again. His first response was "That's a good place to meet your spouse" and "Why do you want a gym membership when every time the opportunity for physical activity comes up you say no and that you'd rather sleep?" Then later that day our 4 year old was trying to bring a bigger toy into the house and wanted me to do it for him, so I said no, you need to do it yourself. My husband turned to him and said "She's too lazy, good luck getting her to help"...

There's several more instances that follow along the lines of him wanting me to stay home all the time and him getting mad any time I make plans that don't involve him. He's gotten close to accusing me of cheating and going out partying any time a friend asks me to hang out. I have never partied or given him a reason to think I'd cheat or get drunk. I've rarely even drank in the past 5 years we've been together, because he doesn't like it.